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Andrea's avatar

Beautifully written as always! I will continue my duty to women who need support who are younger than me. Excellent explanation of the "age" shifting. It can help our daughters serve those younger too!

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Mac Dohm's avatar

Amazing article. Such an important message. Kids must be protected. Bottom line.

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Thoughtful Family Tech Tips's avatar

Thank you for bravely speaking the truth on such important issues. Great article!

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Lexie Cravey's avatar

What if you’re the daughter in law? The naive type that had no idea that this was a silent member of her marriage from the start? I’ve now known for five years and feel no more hopeful than I did at the start.

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Cassie Troja's avatar

I don’t know you, but I feel this deeply and my heart breaks for you. You need to know that you’re not naive for entering your marriage with hope, excitement, and trust. Your trust has been broken and it can feel like it will never be regained. In some ways it won’t. You will have to make tough choices to choose to trust, even when you’re afraid. And that’s not fair, I know it’s not. You will feel this pain roll over you randomly like grief at a memory. That’s normal but it’s not ok because it’s the result of someone else’s sin. I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this. I prayed for you today and truly hope you are able to find help and hope. Your marriage is worth fighting for but you don’t have to do it alone.

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Emily Harrison's avatar

Lexie, my heart is broken for you too. I echo all that Cassie has to say. I, too, have been in prayer for you already today. Our God takes ashes and turns them into beauty. This is not the end of your story, but I'm going to fight like mad to make sure other young women don't have to walk this same road. Thanks for your bravery in speaking up.

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j mac's avatar

I'm so sorry this is your story, Lexie. I don't know if you've found a church that is taking about it, but here's a ministry group that supports couples affected by this. Biblically based, fighting for truth and reconciliation, but with boundaries that help protect the harmed spouse. https://living-truth.org/

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Kate Petterson's avatar

So well written. I've heard lots of arguments about social media and the effect on kids (mostly girls) but pointing out the pornography epidemic needs to be done too. Thank you!

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Emily Harrison's avatar

Thank you, Kate!

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